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We have been greatly blessed not only to have our relationship confirmed by those firm in the faith around us, but also to have access to sound resources and to providentially have been guided by well-timed messages. We seek to bless those who are considering a biblical approach to courtship (not the contemporary world view of dating) and marriage (a solemn, lifelong, God-ordained vow) by sharing the resources we've found, been directed to, or have compiled.
Please feel free to reach out to us about any of these or for more support, should you be looking for the kind of good counsel we’ve had. We may be limited, but we know where to go and who to possibly connect you with!
The Companionship Principle:
The Companionship Principle:
Bringing Biblical Sanity to the Insanity of Dating
Bringing Biblical Sanity to the Insanity of Dating
by Joel James
by Joel James
Been there, done that?
You know how the typical dating scenario goes. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl to a movie. They sit in a dark theatre for two hours and don’t say a word to each other. During the week boy sends girl roses with a note saying her eyes are “sapphire blue.”
The next weekend they see another movie. They sit silently for two hours in the dark. This time he holds her hand and steals a kiss on her front steps. The next week it’s a necklace instead of flowers and a romantic moonlight walk in the park. They spend half their time trying to suffocate each other (if you know what I mean).
And there you have it. They are dating. Of course, you know what usually happens in those dating relationships. In six months their “love” has fallen apart, and they break up, only to start all over again with someone else a month later.
To bring biblical sanity to that type of dating scenario we need to transform our thinking about dating. It starts with Genesis 2:18. Dating is a marriage-kind-of-relationship. God defined that kind of relationship as companionship.
Inside The Companionship Principle find …
- How Genesis 2:18 affects dating
- Samson’s don’ts of dating
- Whom can I date?
- When can I start dating?
- Purity and dating
Download along with many other valuable free resources at https://gracefellowship.co.za/resources
Not Yet Married
Not Yet Married
The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
by Marshall Segal
by Marshall Segal
Learn to live and date for more than marriage.
Many of you grew up assuming that marriage would meet all of your needs and unlock God’s purposes for you. But God has far more planned for you than your future marriage. Not Yet Married is not about waiting quietly in the corner of the world for God to bring you “the one,” but about inspiring you to live and date for more now.
If you follow Jesus, the search for a spouse is no longer a pursuit of perfection, but a mutually flawed pursuit of him. He will likely write a love story for you different than the one you would have written for yourself, but that’s because he loves you and knows how to write a better story. Trust him, and he will help you find real hope, happiness, and purpose in your not-yet-married life.
2017, Crossway Books
Preparing for Marriage
Preparing for Marriage
Help for Christian Couples
Help for Christian Couples
by John Piper
by John Piper
Getting to know that special someone naturally involves learning about family and friends, education and athletics, favorite pastimes, and your hopes and dreams. Ideally, you’ll talk about life’s best moments and worst, the brightest places in your background and the darkest.
But what about God? What is his role in your relationship? What do each of you believe about him, and how do you understand his dream for marriage — for your marriage?
John Piper wants to help you faithfully walk the road to becoming husband and wife. Here you’ll find his counsel on practical topics like engagement, wedding planning, finances, and sex. But most importantly, John shares his single most important word on marriage: a vision grander than many of us have ever dared to dream, about what God is doing in every Christian marriage.
2018, Desiring God
Talking Finances
Talking Finances
A Father’s Guide for Getting and Spending Money – handout
A Father’s Guide for Getting and Spending Money – handout
by Andrew Zekveld
A guided worksheet for the "money talk" if God is your Father
Wisdom on how to get money and principles for spending money and fulfilling your financial responsibilities in the correct order.
Courtship Questions
Courtship Questions
A list of intentional questions for courting/dating couples
A list of intentional questions for courting/dating couples
by Cuan and Grace
We scoured the internet in search of questions to make sure that we were compatible and shared sufficient common ground. We sought out friends and church leaders in our pursuit of reframing how we perceived marriage and courtship. Some of the best advice has been: be intentional!
Here are a series of questions (mainly sourced from from Brett Ullman, categorised from light and easy to deep and challenging.
We preferred and would suggest you stick to the flow and jump to more pressing matters when required. Keep the intimate questions until much later, and keep them matter-of-fact. Seek to understand each other and ask follow up questions - dwell as long as yo need to get to the bottom of your partner’s mind and you may be surprised by what you discover about them and yourself! And do this prayerfully and carefully - seek counsel and remain accountable to someone of the same gender who is older and wiser than you.
Mini-series in Ruth
by Andrew Zekveld (LHBC)
An Excellent Example: God in the Ordinary and the Extra-Ordinary
Mini-series in Ruth
by Andrew Zekveld (LHBC)
An Excellent Example: God in the Ordinary and the Extra-Ordinary
Series in Ephesians
by Andrew Zekveld (LHBC)
A husband's headship, a wife's submission: an image of Christ and His church.
Series in Ephesians
by Andrew Zekveld (LHBC)
A husband's headship, a wife's submission: an image of Christ and His church.
9-part Series in Ephesians by Tim Keller (1991)
9-part Series in Ephesians by Tim Keller (1991)
In our engagement, we have begun and are still working our way through these.
The Exemplary Husband
The Exemplary Husband
A Biblical Perspective
by Stuart Scott
by Stuart Scott
God ordained marriage between a man and a woman for companionship, precreation, and so man would have a "helper suitable." However, God says much more in the Bible about husbands loving their wives than He says about wives submitting to their husbands.
He created marriage to be a picture of the relationship between Christ and the Church. Christ was willing to sacrifice His life for the Church, and God expects no less from husbands today.
The overall purpose of "The Exemplary Husband" is to assist husbands toward purposeful and lasting Christlikeness for the glory of God.
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The Excellent Wife
The Excellent Wife
A Biblical Perspective
by Martha Peace
by Martha Peace
Here is a scripturally based blueprint for the woman who truly desires to be the wife God intended her to be. This book is based on Proverbs 31:10: An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.
Thousands of women have already discovered the worth of this volume and testify to lives and marriages changed because of a commitment to the principles presented here. If this is a commitment you have made, or want to make, The Excellent Wife answers the difficult questions facing you today.
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Please note: Most of the links and documents above are free resources that we have compiled ourselves. We have included some links with options to purchase for your convenience if you wish to use them. These are not affiliate-marketing links - we do not benefit financially or otherwise from any of them. Please feel free to share this resource page far and wide with those interested.
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